Being assertive

 Being assertive means confidently and respectfully expressing your opinions, needs, and rights, while also respecting those of others. It's about finding a balance between being passive and aggressive. Here's how to be assertive in English:

1. Use "I" statements:

• These statements help you express your feelings and needs without blaming others.
• Example: Instead of saying "You always interrupt me," say "I feel frustrated when I'm interrupted because I can't fully express my ideas."

2. Be direct and clear:

• Avoid vague language or beating around the bush. State your point clearly and concisely.
• Example: Instead of saying "It might be helpful if you could perhaps try to be a bit more punctual," say "I need you to be on time for our meetings."

3. Maintain a calm and respectful tone:

• Even when expressing disagreement or frustration, keep your voice calm and avoid being aggressive or rude.
• Example: Instead of yelling "That's unacceptable!", say "I'm concerned about this situation, and I'd like to discuss how we can find a solution."

4. Use confident body language:

• Maintain eye contact, stand tall, and use open gestures to project confidence.

5. Set boundaries:

• Assertively communicate your limits and say "no" when necessary, without feeling guilty.
• Example: "I won't be able to work late tonight. I have a prior commitment."

6. Express disagreement respectfully:

• Acknowledge others' opinions, but confidently state your own perspective.
• Example: "I understand your point of view, however, I believe that..."

7. Be open to compromise:

• While being assertive, also be willing to find solutions that accommodate everyone's needs.

8. Practice assertive communication:

• Role-play situations with a friend or practice in front of a mirror to improve your assertiveness skills.

Examples of assertive phrases:

• "I need..."
• "I would appreciate it if..."
• "I disagree with that because..."
• "I understand your perspective, but..."
• "I'm not comfortable with that."
• "I have the right to..."
• "No, thank you."

Remember:

• Assertiveness is a skill that takes time and practice to develop.
• It's not about being aggressive or demanding, but about expressing yourself respectfully and confidently.
• Being assertive can help you build stronger relationships, improve your self-esteem, and achieve your goals.